lack of self-worth; affects us in almost all areas of life: relationships, Career, personal fulfillment, in the general life experience and especially in health.
Sources of self-worthlessness
According to the recall healing method, when we look for the cause of a certain problem
We will look in three main places:
1. In human life - in certain cycles, certain dates, traumas, etc.
2. The goal project - 9 months before conception, the pregnancy period and up to one year of age.
3. Genetic lineage - parents and grandparents three previous generations, with reference to birth numbers and similar names.
From a practical point of view, the most common cause of low self-worth is an unwanted pregnancy.
What is meant by unwanted pregnancy?
First, we will examine whether both parents wanted the pregnancy, whether the pregnancy was planned, how each of them reacted to the news,
How did the extended family react? and more.
………even a few days of "deliberation" can be assimilated in a child born as a feeling that I am not wanted for the rest of his life.
Of course there is no intention to judge the parents, we are all human, but to understand the source of the patient's problem and change.
In many cases, a lack of self-worth that interferes with the life of an older person can stem from events that seem to him to be meaningless today.
Some common examples:
1. The parents, or the extended family wanted a son and got a daughter. It can create a girl who is a "Tom Boy" and of course a lack of self worth,
I'm not good enough for them. (In many cases the woman will suffer from a cold)
2. It takes a father several days/several weeks to accept the pregnancy. This is typical for men who are not as physically connected to pregnancy as a woman.
And usually they did not "dream of children" like the woman. The man will try to please the father without a sense of success, he will feel that his father does not accept him,
Tendency to perfectionism and more.
3. The father and mother argue and argue during pregnancy. The fetus takes their feelings as if they were his own, "I'm not loved"
Sometimes the child will take it upon himself to friend the parents. Possible diseases: fibromyalgia, bedwetting and more.
4. The father goes to the reserves/to work - If the woman experiences it as if he prefers to do something
Other than being with her, (she has a lot of time to think) she will feel worthless and it will pass to the fetus.
The lack of worth in the person can be expressed by staying connected to the mother, being insecure in his relationship and more.
5. A woman who, although the pregnancy was desired - He arrived at a bad time (studies, work, etc.). In such cases a person is seen
who invests himself in studies or work, or exactly the opposite: fails to study or work - to dull the feeling
- that he is not wanted by his mother.
6. Any experience of worthlessness that one of the parents experienced:
My boss doesn't appreciate me, I can't make money, I'm not loved, I'm not pretty/thin enough or any low body image
will pass to the child as if they were his own.
Each of these conflicts can be expressed emotionally and mentally as well as physically.
For example: the father wants to resign from the job where he is not treated with respect, but cannot because there are financial difficulties.
He just had a child and he has to support his family.
The conflict of "I suffer and want to get out" connects with the feeling of the father's worthlessness.
The person born can carry the father's conflict in the subconscious, which will erupt with a certain trigger.
For example, at the same age as his father when he was born and when he is in a similar situation where he is suffering and unable to break free,
Will develop shoulder problems, the meaning of which is: I want to get out of this place, but I can't.
Lack of value in the genetic lineage
In the genetic lineage, we find similar stories, sometimes more dramatic, because the small stories along the way are forgotten..
Stories like:
I could not save my child from an illness.
I wanted to be a doctor but I had to raise my children.
Insulting treatment of women in the family.
My sister sacrificed herself for me so that I would stay alive. (There are many similar stories from the Holocaust)
Each such story will pass in the family memory and will usually be expressed in a person who bears the same name or the same number in the order of birth.
worthlessness in human life
It is easier for a person who has not studied recall healing to understand this part.
Any experience that parents don't get in grades at school in comments for how you draw or do other things.
All our comparisons to other children and especially to older brothers - who are naturally better than you.
can manifest as a lack of value in our childhood and of course also in adult life.
Watching "beautiful, smart and successful" people on TV and comparing them to you,
Failure to achieve what you wanted accompanied by giving up on your goals (if you keep trying it's not failure)
Inability to see reality:
A 50-year-old man trying to play sports like he was at 20 when he's out of shape.
can be expressed in a lack of value that will be expressed in damage to the joints or muscles that are relevant to this action.
For example: I can't run as well as I want, can be manifested by inflammation of the twin muscle or Achilles tendon.
I can't play tennis the way I want to, manifested by inflammation in my elbow "tennis elbow".
Often, the source of the problem can stem from the genetic lineage from the target project and the human instincts in particular
And understanding the source of the problem with work on the worthlessness will cure or help cure the disease, or the emotional and mental pattern.
It is recommended to watch Dr. Renault's video that also talks about solutions to the lack of value:
